Sometimes our kids trigger us because we're trying to hand them our survival strategies, even the ones the world calls good. This is the story of how my daughter's sudden ingratitude helped me understand how our own developmental delays are reflected in our kids, and how with observation and reflection, we can grow together.

She calls them her kids. Students other schools gave up on, students the world still struggles to see clearly. This post is about what happens to a child's sense of worth when the adults around them get the story wrong, and why connection, relationship, and empathy are necessary for learning.

Unfurling takes work. It takes safety. It takes trust and time. And what makes diving into the wreck an exploration and integration is our intentionality.